We may compare ourselves to others, give into negative self-talk or unnecessarily find ourselves apologizing. The downside to forming these habits is that it can become easy to let the little things get the best of us without realizing the long-term impact they can have on our self-esteem.
If you’re feeling off balance, here are 3 ways you may be unknowingly damaging your self-worth
1- Taking mistakes and failures to heart
Making mistakes or failing at something is human nature, but when you take every mistake and failure too personally it can be detrimental to your self-esteem. Instead of beating yourself up and allowing the event to kill your confidence, choose to see the experience as a valuable learning curve. Ask yourself what you learnt from this experience and what you could do better the next time around. When we view our experiences as stepping stones they stop us from feeling paralysed by fear.
2- Not knowing your worth
If your worth is dependent on pleasing others, nothing you do will be enough to make you feel valued and appreciated in the way that you desire. Knowing your worth has to come from within. Research has shown that your worth is determined by the treatment you accept or expect for yourself, and not by how much of yourself you give away. If you expect others to constantly validate your efforts, you won’t gain the valuable skills of learning to accept who you are or know what it feels like to be comfortable in your own skin.
3- Comparing yourself to others
With many of us scrolling through our social media platforms multiple times a day, an easy trap to fall into is comparison. The challenge with social media is that you naturally compare yourself with others and either feel bad about yourself because you compare your own experience with your false perception of another’s life, or you judge others to make yourself feel better about yourself. Either way, you are experiencing negativity. It’s important that we stay in tune with what we are thinking as we are exploring social media to ensure we do not unconsciously measure our life against the lives of others. Remind yourself that social media is simply a highlight reel of people’s lives – it isn’t the full picture. If you find yourself frequently feeling negative after scrolling through social media, take some measures to limit the amount of time you spend on social platforms or consider taking a temporary social media detox.